Do the words “I’m sorry” just drip from your tongue without giving them a second thought? Does it ever seem like you are on autopilot when it comes to serving up apologies, even for things that don’t warrant one? (I’m holding my hand up as I used to be guilty of this.)
I am here to tell you to stop apologizing for things that you do not need to apologize for. Stop apologizing for saying no, for having a different opinion or viewpoint, for changing your mind, for maintaining and upholding your boundaries, for simply being you, for existing.
None of these are things you need to apologize for because every time you do, you diminish your worth. These apologies subtly communicate to others that you are less valuable than them, that you don’t matter. This diminishes your personal power.
I have witnessed people doing this in meetings when they share an opinion and it is not warmly received. They apologize and without realizing it, they just gave away their own power, rather than owning the right to speak up and have a different opinion. Too often, apologizing is a go-to when feelings of discomfort or vulnerability surface. It is important to notice that, swallow those words, and stand firm in your own power.
Another common area for apologies is our feelings. We often apologize for having an “off” day, feeling angry, having a mini meltdown, or crying. This is the beauty of being human—to feel and express yourself. There is no need to apologize if you are not feeling okay or need to release the buildup you’ve been holding in.
Know that your voice, your opinions, your boundaries, your existence, they all matter and they are just as valuable as anyone else’s. Never be sorry for stepping into your power and honoring and respecting yourself. Do not be apologetic for others not understanding who you are. Never apologize because someone else doesn’t agree with you or doesn’t favorably respond to you changing your mind. That’s on them.
So my BIG ask is this: Please stop apologizing for being human—for being you.
LYF 💖
REFLECTION: When do you most often find yourself over-apologizing? How do you feel when you first offer the apology? How do you feel afterwards?
Coming Soon! 40 Weeks of Inspiration
Dear Friend,
I believe you are a beautiful being birthed into this world with unlimited potential. Then the external noise of societal norms and expectations coupled with our own insecurities and fears begin to silence this potential.
In setting aside time to be still with yourself, to ask the difficult questions and be honest with your answers, to truly listen, you can begin to tap into and release more of this potential—to share your inner beauty with the world.
A couple of years ago I started a project in which I created 40 inspirational images with quotes to help you connect with your truth, become a better listener of the voice within, and deepen your connection with your self. This is how you create more of the life you truly want—the life that makes your heart smile and your soul dance.
This project was originally intended to be a physical product—a deck of cards. Though the physical creation was halted, the images were completed. I felt that creating an online space to share these would be beneficial to others—to you.
For 40 weeks beginning on September 12th, a new post will be published under the 40 Weeks of Inspiration section. To keep from inundating your inbox, a link to each week’s post will be included in the regular weekly newsletter.
This will be a great opportunity to start, strengthen, or create a regular journaling practice, to which there are so many benefits. But most importantly, I hope you see this as an opportunity for quiet time to become more connected to your truth.
Best Wishes,
-Jen
LYF 💖